We live such busy lives nowadays having to juggle work, family, studies, volunteering, managing the household, etc. it is understandable that sexual desire may not come on as spontaneously as it once did when we had less responsibilities to attend to. Media and pop culture can sometimes lead us to believe that desire and arousal ‘should’ just come on and in fact, come on as frequently as it used to and preferably our partner should be wanting and aroused as well!
Attachment refers to the way in which we typically relate and build emotional bonds to others. The typical way we attach (i.e., our attachment “style”), develops in early childhood but then continues to evolve through adolescence and then adulthood.
As a clinical psychologist that works with a large portion of clients with sexual dysfunction, some of the issues I explore with people include low or discrepant libido (sexual desire), unsatisfactory sexual frequency perhaps due to pain, anxiety, or low mood, and broad sexual dissatisfaction.
Given our attachment can impact our ability to feel and regulate our emotions, the way we see ourselves, the way we see the world, and our expectations in our relationships, it is probably a good idea to understand your attachment style.
Therapy, or more accurately, psychotherapy, is a form of psychological intervention, often conducted by a psychologist or trained counsellor that typically explores our emotions, behaviours, and thoughts. But why go and is it right for you?
The media and society at large maintain the stereotype/belief hat healthy couple sexuality is hot, lustful, headboard banging, lamp falling off the side table, moans of intense pleasure and the inevitable mutual orgasm.
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